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  • Cindy Wysocki

Navigating Estate Planning for Blended Families in Washington State

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A "blended family" refers to a family where at least one spouse has children from a previous marriage or relationship. This often includes stepchildren, half-siblings, and other non-traditional family structures. 

Estate planning for blended families can be complex and sensitive due to competing interests and potential tensions among stepchildren, ex-spouses, and various family members. For example, the tension between a step-parent and a step-child can be significant.  If you are in a blended family, and have biological children not from your current spouse, you need to be aware of this tension, even if you think everything is well and fine.  Sometimes the tensions do not become obvious until a time of significant stress.   

Key Considerations for Blended Families 

Thoughtful estate planning is essential for maintaining peace for your family in your absence. If things are not planned in advance, during times of stress, tensions may explode.  To ensure your affairs are handled according to your wishes, consider these strategies: 

  • Communicate Clearly 

Openly discussing estate plans with all family members can help avoid misunderstandings and conflicts. Clearly stating intentions for asset distribution can prevent disputes among biological children, stepchildren, and spouses. 

You never want, for example, your children and their step-parent to conflict over your medical care or potential end-of-life decisions.  Clearly establishing your wishes in advance through an estate plan can prevent unnecessary disagreement, stress and resentment. 

  • Update Beneficiary Designations 

Ensure that beneficiary designations on retirement plans, life insurance policies, and bank accounts reflect current relationships. Outdated designations could result in unintended beneficiaries receiving assets, including cutting off your children or spouse from the inheritance you intended for them. 

  • Establish Trusts 

Trusts can be effective for providing for both current spouses and children from previous marriages. A trust can allow a current spouse to use assets during their lifetime, while preserving assets for children from a previous marriage.  A trust can also keep a designated portion of your assets safe for your children and grandchildren. 

  • Nominate Guardians 

If minor children are involved, nominate guardians to care for them in the event of your death. This decision should consider the wishes of both biological parents and stepparents. 

  • Consider Life Insurance 

Life insurance planning can minimize estate taxes and ensure your family doesn't need to liquidate your estate to pay taxes. It can also provide funds to maintain the lifestyle of your spouse and children from another relationship. 

  • Seek Professional Advice 

Consult with an experienced estate planning attorney. They can navigate Washington State laws, draft legally binding documents, and ensure your wishes are clearly documented and enforceable. 


Estate planning for blended families in Washington State requires careful consideration of both the law and family dynamics. By planning proactively, you can protect your loved ones and avoid potential conflicts.  Let us help you and your loved ones get the peace of mind you deserve, knowing that things are properly set up for life's “what if's” and “when's”. 


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