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  • Cindy Wysocki

Embracing Peace: a New Paradigm for Divorce

Updated: Aug 1

In the tumultuous landscape of divorce, peace is not just a lofty ideal but a practical necessity.  


It's common for couples to enter divorce proceedings expecting a courtroom battle, envisioning a contentious legal showdown. However, the reality is quite different. Judges aren't arbiters of family dynamics; they encourage couples to seek amicable solutions. Opting for litigation often leads to prolonged disputes, escalating costs, and emotional strain. There are no winners in divorce. 


In the traditional narrative of divorce, there's often a perception of winners and losers. Even if one party achieves their desired outcome in court, it often leads to prolonged resentment and ongoing legal battles. The true victory lies in reaching agreements that both parties can accept, fostering a sense of closure and allowing families to move forward. 


This is where the collaborative model comes in as an alternative to traditional litigation. In this model, each party retains a lawyer, but instead of adversarial proceedings, they work together as a team to facilitate constructive dialogue and mutual understanding. By prioritizing transparency, cooperation, and information sharing, couples can craft customized solutions that meet their needs without the uncertainty and expense of courtroom battles. 


It’s important to note that collaborative may not be suitable for every situation. Cases involving serious issues like domestic violence or untreated mental health conditions require careful consideration and may necessitate a different approach. However, with proper support and awareness, even challenging situations can often find resolution through alternative methods.  


In navigating divorce, embracing peace can be transformative. By shifting the focus from conflict to cooperation, couples can achieve outcomes that are sustainable and conducive to moving forward.

 

If you want to learn more about this, you can listen to our episode on Meg Gluckman’s podcast, Welcome to the Other Side here

Couple going through collaborative divorce

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